I started this blog less than a year ago. I attempted to be completely anonymous, which I found to be impossible. I was filtering my words too much, not being honest enough, and eventually stopped because I didn’t find it fulfilling or worthy of being read by anyone.
A few months later I decided to try again, this time being more open. I still keep some things private, but otherwise this is me, like it or not. I am actually a 30-something married working mom of two living in the Pittsburgh area. I am not a man pretending to be these things (although I see the appeal of the glamorous life I lead).
As two bloggers have recently been outed as being straight men, while blogging as lesbian women, I am confounded. Why? Why would you do that? If you want to start a project and pretend to be someone else, be honest about it. Note that it’s fiction, that you’re pretending. Don’t string people along for years and then fake a kidnapping to get out of it (Why do people fake kidnappings to get out of things? That never ends well. People always find out and then he or she looks like an even bigger idiot).
They both claim to have started these alternate personalities because they wanted to be taken as legitimate. Except they aren’t legitimate. Which makes them huge liars. It is fine to comment and discuss issues that interest you, even if you aren’t in that demographic. That doesn’t mean you can’t talk about it. If people in those circles won’t accept you for who you are, you are either not be giving them enough credit or they aren’t as open and accepting as they report to be.
I think it’s sad that you can read and connect with someone through the internet, and then find out it’s all a sham. All the good that these guys have done is now undone. All of the people who were emotionally involved have been deceived. Some of their trust in humanity is now gone. And for what? A blog?
The whole point of blogging is to be open, to share whatever it is that interests you with others. By pretending to be something they aren’t, these guys have put a black mark on the blogging world. So, thanks for that, fellas.